I realize it’s been awhile since I’ve posted. Obviously, many days have passed, and so much has happened.
The match fell through and the adoption is off.
We lost contact with the expecting mom in early April. We were concerned, but the agency was still in contact, so we tried not to worry about it. Unfortunately, the agency also lost contact with her around the beginning of May. At that point, we tried to reach out one last time, and didn’t hear anything. We knew something was up, but wasn’t sure what.
We decided to stick with it until the birth, thinking maybe she was just in a bad place, and we didn’t want to abandon her. We worried she had considered parenting, and if that were her decision, we were prepared to support that decision fully. We didn’t hear anything for a bit, and decided to take a mini-vacation to Colorado over the Memorial Day weekend.
Once we returned, we heard back from the agency. EM had given birth and the match was fully terminated. It’s hard, and heartbreaking, but something that we always knew was a possibility. That we would come to the end of this leg of the journey, and not necessarily have the outcome we desired.
So, here we are, back at the beginning. I don’t relish the thought of starting over, but know there’s nothing else we can do aside from wait and pray. We thank you all for your support and well wishes, they mean the world to us!
I can’t believe that we are in the home stretch! It’s 48 days until the official “due date”…and it completely and utterly boggles my mind!
Admittedly, stress is high. I’m worried things will fall through, worried that something will happen, worried about becoming a parent…pretty much worried about everything you could think of. I’m trying not to let it sully these coming weeks, but I have a feeling the next month is going to DRAG on forever.
The nursery is done. We’ve been working on other house repairs in the hopes of getting all the big stuff completely before the baby is born. It’s been a long process, but we’re at the tail end, so that is comforting!
Otherwise, we’re just waiting! I feel like the wait is nearly at an end, but I’m also somewhat scared to get too excited. It’ll definitely be an interesting month and a half!
The nursery has been a source of such excitement (and sometimes despair) over the past month or so. Before we even decided on adoption, we had painted the nursery, along with my craft room, a neutral grey. It’s a very light grey, so it was easily considered “gender neutral.” Then as the adoption wait continued, we decided on colors, rather than a theme: Navy, Turquoise, and Grey. Colors that would work well with either a boy or a girl (and I do love a good Navy color!).
Then, a few weeks ago, the anatomy scan revealed that our Expecting Mother was having a baby girl, and all good plans went by the wayside! I won’t lie, I had a moment of insanity where I wanted to scrap all the plans that we’d put in place for the nursery and start over with a blank slate…well, not blank, but a slate full of lush floral patterns, deep purples and hazy greys…and J immediately was having none of it.
Thankfully, cooler heads prevailed (especially before I tossed everything we’d already bought for the nursery) and I got back on track. We looked far and wide for the right decal to put on the wall…something that brought out our love of travel and adventure, and something that would take up a fair amount of space on the wall. We finally found one we both liked on Etsy, and last night we put it up on the wall!
It’s only a small start, but we have until June to make the room perfect. I’ve been enjoying the slow process of putting it all together!
It’s crazy how my posts have taken such a turn…from counting down the months waiting for a match, to counting down the days until the baby is here!
Last week was the anatomy scan (which was quite the ordeal, in and of itself), and we were THRILLED to hear that the baby was doing very well, growing on schedule and looking perfect. Our expecting mother also told us that the baby is a GIRL!!! We are absolutely THRILLED to welcome a daughter into our family!
Our expecting mother is also doing well, but found out that she has a condition that could result in the need for a C-section instead of a vaginal birth. We’re hoping things clear up and she is able to continue with the vaginal birth, but as long as she’s healthy and happy with the care she’s receiving, we’re completely fine with however this turns out. She’s such a sweet and caring person, and we really care about how she’s doing and making sure she’s feeling happy and well taken care of.
We’re looking to make a visit to see her soon, hopefully mid-march. She’d like to do a walk-through at the hospital with us, so that we can see where she’ll give birth and meet some of the staff. In addition, she’s also asked that I be with her in the delivery room, which means a lot to me. I was clear with her that if she changes her mind, it’s COMPLETELY ok, and I don’t want her to feel pressured to have me in there. For now, that’s the plan, but I fully recognize that could change in an instant and just plan to play it by ear.
So…we’re 133 days (give or take) away from being parents. It’s a crazy feeling, but we’re so excited!