As I mentioned in my last post, one of the things I struggle with the most is how much I should “prepare” ahead of time…even knowing that it could be months or years before we have a match/placement. And, honestly, I have a feeling I’ll be struggling with this throughout the entire process, because that seems to be how my personality runs.
One of the areas that I’m unsure of is whether to go ahead and decorate the nursery. I was reading through a few different blogs, and one woman said she wanted to decorate the nursery for A baby, not necessarily a specific baby. I really liked how she put that, because that way the nursery is ready to go, but it’s more of planning for a certainty. My concern was always that we’d decorate for a match, but then the adoption would fall through and I’d be left with a nursery that was empty. I think, if we decorate prior to even having a match, it’ll feel more like an eventuality, rather than a room for a specific child.
J has already mentioned that he wants to build the crib, which I love the idea of. Lately, he’s been enamored with all sorts of woodworking, and I know this will give him a way to feel tied in even more to the adoption, and will give him a nice lead-up to bonding with the baby.
So…I’m still torn. I think it could be a great way to pass the time, and something for me to focus on as we move through this process, but I worry it’s also too soon. Thoughts?